With Awareness Comes Freedom
Entry # 29
There is freedom that comes with awareness, because with it comes the opportunity to make a choice.
Life is a journey comprised of many steps on our personal path that takes us down a winding road of constant evolution. And each day, we are provided with a myriad of opportunities that can allow us to transform into our next best selves. One moment we are presented with an opportunity to react differently when yet another someone in our life rubs us the wrong way; on another day we may find ourselves wanting to walk away from a particular circumstance but are not sure if we can. Eventually, we may find ourselves stuck in a rut that we can never seem to get out of. We may even make the same choices over and over again because we don't know how to choose otherwise. Rather than moving us forward, our personal paths may take us in a seemingly never-ending circle where our actions and choices lead us nowhere but to where we've already been. It is during these moments that awareness can be the first step to change.
Awareness is when we are able to realise what we are doing. We observe ourselves, noticing our reactions, actions, and choices as if we were a detached viewer. Awareness is the first step to change because we can't make a change unless we are aware that one needs to be made in the first place. We can then begin understanding why we are doing what we are doing. Afterwards, it becomes difficult not to change because we are no longer asleep to the truth behind our behaviours. We also begin to realise that, just as much as we are the root source behind the causes for our behaviours, we are also the originator for any changes that we want to happen.
There is a freedom that comes with awareness. Rather than thinking that we are stuck in a repetitive cycle where there is no escape, we begin to see that we very much play a hand in creating our lives. Whether we are aware of them or not, our behaviours and choices are always ours to make. Our past and our present no longer have to dictate our future when we choose to be aware. We are then free to move beyond our old limits, make new choices, and take new actions. With awareness, our paths can't help but wind us forward in our lives while paving the way for new experiences and new ways of being. It is through awareness that we can continue to consciously evolve.
When The Path Gets Rocky...
Entry # 28
Today was a beautiful sunny day and so for the first time this week I decided to go into my garden to see how much more my fruits and vegetables had grown and water them.
As I walked through the garden, I was reminded of all the unpredictable things that have occurred in my life, especially in the last few months, and how challenging the path to success has been at times. You know, we all like to have a clear path in front of us. But, sometimes there is a groove in the road...or we lose your step...or the terrain gets a bit rough.
You see, dear friend, being in nature reminds me that not everything is within our control. We can create plans, or come up with strategies, or follow a GPS to our destination. We know WHERE we want to go or HOW we want to live.
But, what we tend to forget is that sometimes we have to go THROUGH a storm in order to get TO our destination. At times we have to go through some rough terrain and we may even have to alter our course to get to that 'mountaintop'.
The mountaintop is the decision...the non-negotiable...it’s the “WHAT”...it's the destination. HOW we get there might change. Because we can start down one path, but discover there’s a big tree in the way, or a little lake we didn’t know was just around the bend.
When we dream and plan, we sometimes forget that between us and the mountaintop is the path. And that path can be rocky, turbulent, dirty and full of unknowns. But it doesn’t change the fact that the mountaintop is ours to be had, and the decision to create our own path is ours!
As we journey towards our dreams, the path may become unclear and the terrain may seem too rough to negotiate. In those times we have to remind ourselves to STOP for a moment and to RECALIBRATE, instead of getting frustrated, running out of gas, or giving up and saying that things didn’t work out for us. We really need to learn how to stop and remind ourselves that just because things might not have worked the way we expected them to, does NOT mean they won’t work at all.
Your friend in unlimited possibility,
“Focus on what you want rather than on what you don’t want. Your thoughts create your reality.”
Entry # 27
In every moment, you need to be aware of how your own thoughts shape your experiences. It’s, therefore, crucial for you to focus on what you want to keep up the positive flow of energy in your life.
When you focus on the good things, you are actively choosing your thoughts. Thoughts always have an effect. When you feel down and tend to think negative thoughts, these affirm the not-so-great energies in your life. So, before any doubtful, unhelpful thoughts take hold in your mind, make a real effort to move on from these. Live from a place of gratitude and positivity and your world will always be good. Even if something negative happens, you will be able to move on from it with ease.
Practice moving on from unhelpful thoughts. When you feel one creeping in and trying to take hold, release it and view your situation as positive. Hold only loving positive thoughts and love will come your way!
Your friend in unlimited possibility,
Knowing Your Own Worth
Entry # 26
Our Worth is not a product of our intelligence, our talent, our looks, or how much we have accomplished.
Though much of who and what we are changes as we journey through life, our inherent worth remains constant. While the term self-worth is often used interchangeably with self-esteem, the two qualities are inherently different. Self-esteem is the measure of how you feel about yourself at a given moment in time. Your worth, however, is not a product of your intelligence, your talent, your looks, your good works, or how much you have accomplished. Rather it is an immeasurable and unchanging manifestation of your eternal and infinite oneness with the universe. It represents the cornerstone of the dual foundations of optimism and self-belief. Your worth cannot be taken from you or damaged by life's rigours, yet it can easily be forgotten or even actively ignored. By regularly acknowledging your self-worth, you can ensure that you never forget what an important, beloved, and special part of the universe you are.
You are born worthy of love and of every good thing life has to offer. Your worth is intertwined with your very being. Your concept of your own self-worth is thus reinforced by your actions. Each time you endeavour to appreciate yourself, treat yourself kindly, define your personal boundaries, be proactive in seeing that your needs are met, and broaden your horizons, you express your recognition of your innate value. During those periods when you have lost sight of your worth, you will likely feel mired in depression, insecurity, and a lack of confidence. You'll pursue a counterfeit worth based on judgement rather than the beauty that resides within. When you feel worthy, however, you will accept yourself without hesitation. It is your worth as an individual who is simultaneously interconnected with all living beings that allows you to be happy, confident, and motivated. Because your conception of your worth is not based on the fulfillment of expectations, you'll see your mistakes and failures as just another part of life's journey.
Human beings are very much like drops of water in an endless ocean. Our worth comes from our role as distinct individuals as well as our role as an integral part of something larger than ourselves. Simply awakening to this concept can help you rediscover the copious and awe-inspiring worth within each and every one of us.
From Evelyne, your friend in unlimited possibility.
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Learn To Forgive And Be Free!
Entry # 25
“It is only through forgiveness that you grow as a person.”
When we learn to forgive, miracles can and do occur. It can be hard to let go when you have been hurt and betrayed. However, it’s crucial for you to find it in yourself to do this. Holding onto negativity and blame only drags you down and disconnects you from your Higher Self. Whether you have to forgive yourself or someone else, now is the time!
It’s now time to make a move forward from all the sadness and pain others have caused you. Even if it is yourself that you have trouble forgiving, know that today is the first day of the rest of your life. It’s time to release any guilt or ill will you are carrying. Give yourself credit for having tried to do your best even though you may not be so happy with the results!
Today is the perfect day for forgiving yourself and others. Focus on all the good aspects of life. You are moving forwards. Ask the Universe to help you to forgive yourself and others. You will soon be feeling lighter, brighter and a whole lot happier!
Your friend in unlimited possibility,
Our Thoughts Create Our Reality
Entry # 23
Our thoughts are powerful forces in the creation of our experience of life. During the day, we can monitor our thoughts to see if we're investing our energy where it is useful and harness the power of our thoughts to actively create a positive reality. Throughout the day, we can monitor our thoughts so as to catch ourselves in the middle of investing our energy elsewhere--such as into belief in limitations and lack, and instead pull our focus back to the infinite possibilities of the present.
Taking a deep breath will help us center our thoughts on being in our bodies right now. Regular meditation will allow us to gain mastery over our minds so that we can still our thoughts to focus on the pureness of being. If we mentally dwell on the past or the future, we may miss the experience of living in the present moment. In truth, our only true reality is the present moment. Setting and visualizing goals is wonderful, but we can bring our thoughts into our current experience by taking steps to create them now.
Our minds are powerful tools that we can harness to create our reality. Through them we move the unformed energy of the universe into form, which gives us direction for our words and actions. Each thought is like a stone dropped into a lake, sending ripples out into our world to affect all they touch. We can choose our focus and how we invest our energy, which gives us the power to design our lives to be whatever we choose in each and every moment.
In Alignment With Our Life Purpose.
Entry # 22
With stress and anxiety plaguing more and more people today, the fastest solution is often a pill -- pills such as the many antidepressants seen on the market.
What if there were more natural ways to healing? What if given the chance your body could heal itself?
Contrary to what Big Pharmaceutical companies have led the masses to believe, popping a pill to suppress the symptoms in the short term while dealing with drug-inherent side effects doesn't sound like the best option.
Thankfully, today an increasing number of people turn to group meditations, modern spirituality, and natural healing. More and more people are learning how to tune in to what their body and soul are trying to tell them about their true life calling, so that they can begin creating a life that’s a joyful expression of their highest purpose by creating a crystal clear vision for what they’d love to be, do, have and give in the four key domains of their lives: health, relationships, vocation, and time & money freedom.
One very popular such natural healing technique is body scanning. Through body scanning you can discover how to tell what you feel in your own body, whether specific people, opportunities or actions you’re thinking about taking are IN or OUT of alignment with your life purpose. Through this very effective technique you can recognize and release limiting thought patterns, and instill new, more empowering ways of thinking that will support you in creating a life of joy, passion, purpose and contribution to the world.
For many centuries, Eastern phylosophers like Sufism, Zen and Hatha yoga have highlighted the importance of body states, how they impact our consciousness, and their relationship to stress.
More recently, (during the last century), a one time student of Sigmund Freud named Wilhelm Reich, inspired Western psychiatry's interest in the body's interaction with emotional conditions. Other therapies such as Alexander Lowens' bioenergetic therapy and Perls' Gestalt therapy also closely focus on the relationship between the mind and the body.
By developing an awareness and understanding of how your own body responds to stress and other anxiety-provoking situations, you will receive important information about your personal stress response. This information will prove vital in the development of a stress-management plan designed just for you.
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The Importance of Having a Positive Self-Image
Entry # 21
If your self-image is positive, you'll feel unstoppable in achieving your dreams. Likewise, if you have a negative self-image, you'll go through life feeling unfulfilled and worrying that you're not good enough.
Here's 5 secrets to build a positive self-image:
1) Engage In Positive Self-Talk.
We all talk to ourselves and carry on a mental dialogue. It's important to become mindful of what you say to yourself; because more often than not, it's what we believe in. Instead of bringing yourself down and being your own worst critic, affirm and encourage yourself.
Throughout the day, build yourself up by telling yourself constantly how you're improving or what a great job you've done.
2) Accept Flaws.
Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. Accepting yourself for your weaknesses and imperfections will help you move on to focusing on those which matter more - your strengths. Instead of beating yourself up for things you can't change or control, spend your energy on maximizing your skills and abilities.
3) Recognize Accomplishments.
No matter how big or small they are, your accomplishments are concrete reminders of your self-worth. Recognizing even the smallest 'wins' helps you realise that you're important; and that if you put your mind to it, you can do anything.
4) Spend Time With People Who Have A Positive Attitude.
If you're constantly around people who just bring you down, building a positive self-image can be very difficult (or nearly impossible). Surely there are people who love you, inspire you, and care for you. Choose to be around them. Not only will they help you feel good about yourself, they will also support you in times of challenges.
5) Treat Yourself Kindly.
You deserve to be happy and feel good about yourself. Give yourself generous compliments and reward yourself with little treats. Don't pressure yourself too much. Remember that you don't have to please everyone. Your self-perception - your personal view of yourself - is what matters. Yes, it can be difficult at first. It can also take a while. Remember that it's a process. If you make mistakes along the way, forgive yourself and encourage yourself to keep going.
Building a positive self-image always starts from within. It's always a conscious choice. Choose to love and accept yourself.
Entry # 20
And now for the fifth and final step for completing any project:
STEP #5 FOR COMPLETING A PROJECT: Enlist the help of an accountability partner
I am a huge fan of having an accountability partner who can help you stay inspired, motivated and moving toward the vision you have in mind of what you want to create with your project.
A great accountability partner will help you stay on track with your project like white lines on a highway. They’ll let you know when you’re veering too far off from where you set out to go, and they’ll tell you to put your foot on the gas pedal if you start moving too slowly!
This person will also help you bounce back if you stumble, and they’ll help you celebrate your successes along the way!
Your accountability partner could be a friend, family member or colleague, as long as they embody three important qualities that I share here.
No matter what though, surround yourself with people who believe in you and who are driven to accomplish their own goals and dreams – this mindset and the energy that goes with it is absolutely contagious!
YOU are the secret to completing a project…however large or seemingly difficult to finish!
It can be all too easy to get busy or stressed and start to blame circumstances beyond our control for not completing a project that’s important to us.
But remember – there’s a power within you that’s far greater than any circumstance, situation or condition you will ever find yourself in. Remember this when you start to waver on something you’ve set your mind to!
And be sure to set yourself up for success right out of the gate with any project by being mindful of how you think and speak about the actions to be taken, and by leveraging the power of your calendar, delegation and an accountability partner.
Together, these steps will ensure you take each and every project straight to completion!
I hope you have found the suggestions in these 5 steps useful. If you have share them with a friend. They will appreciate you for it.
Until next time!
Entry # 19
STEP #4 FOR COMPLETING A PROJECT: Delegate when possible
Is there some part of your project that you can delegate to others?
Is your project to plan your wedding, can you enlist members of your wedding party to run some errands or set up your wedding decorations, for example?
Delegated tasks can help you take a strength and stretch it further. But some of the best growth comes when you give someone responsibility for an area or skill set that needs further development. If your project is to launch a new business, for example, and one of the steps is to come up with a tagline and brand messaging for your company… rather than investing hours into trying to write this messaging yourself, is there an expert you can hire to do this for you?
Delegating tasks can lighten your workload, but delegating does much more than just get stuff off your plate, according to Dr. Scott Williams, professor of management at Wright State University.
If possible, hire others to complete steps of your project that are not absolutely essential to be completed by you. Or ask a few reasonable favours of family or friends – chances are they’d be thrilled to have a chance to contribute to your project!
Being great at completing projects doesn't mean you do everything yourself. It means you’ve gotten really good at identifying the people best suited to tackle a task or project and empowering them to do so. Delegating also help the people who work for you develop new skills and gain knowledge, which prepares them for more responsibility in the future.